Mike really wanted to take over the Head of Engineering position that was open. He had managed several teams simultaneously and his staff really prospered by his leadership. He seemed content in his role, but inwardly he wanted to be asked to step up.  When discussions arose about the position in leadership meetings, he just sat back and listened, hoping someone would nominate him. To his disappointment no one ever did.

Early on when the discussion first began, he smiled, blushed and politely shook his head “no” when eyes first turned to him. Actually, he had expected that the discussion would continue and they would ask him again, a little more aggressively. Instead, the discussion moved on to the pursuit of other candidates.  His window had opened and he closed it and never attempted to re-open it.
Today’s leaders need to have the confidence to ask for what they want. This means risk taking and the inner confidence to try, to step forward at the risk of being rejected.  This holds true for promoting new ideas as well as personal growth. 

Mike lost out on that position.  He came for coaching feeling that his organization had passed him over. A few months later, he was self-promoting his interest in another senior position. He was confident, not cocky, but stepped up to promoting his interest and skills.   This time, he was offered the position and negotiated his roles and responsibilities like a pro.  Once he stepped up to the plate, he hit a home run on his first swing!

Mike was one of the more experienced high potentials in his organization. Yet HR and his senior Management were beginning to wonder if he plateaued. Once he, stepped forward, they were very happy to open the door and invite him in.